“Things which matter most must never be at the mercy of things which matter least.” — Johann Wolfgang von Goethe
There are only two directions in life: towards love or towards fear. That’s worth remembering when we have to make decisions that will have a significant impact on our life. In order to consciously focus on what is truly important; it can be helpful to keep in mind the two directions of fear and love and to test every decision against that spectrum. A seesaw will remain steady when weights of an equal measure are placed on either side, and the fulcrum is set right at the center. Move the fulcrum, and a heavier weight will need to be placed at the shorter end of the plank to keep the seesaw balanced. If we were to view one end of the seesaw as what we love, and the other as what we fear, then placing all our focus (the weight) on what we fear means that we have to locate our energy (the fulcrum) on holding up those fears. The same principle applies to focusing our energy on what we love—what is truly important to us. We make hundreds of decisions every day—some large, many small. Developing the habit of asking yourself, in respect of both large and small decisions, “Will saying yes to this take me in the direction of what I love, or is it simply a reaction to what I fear?” will keep your focus on what is truly important to you. A life well lived is made up of a series of decisions like this. If we weigh up a decision focusing on the love/fear spectrum, then we are more likely to consciously move in the direction of a life we love.
Try applying the love/fear test on a decision that you have to make today.